The last few years have shaken our perspective on life. On the one hand we have come face to face with a heightened awareness of our own mortality. On the other we have had the opportunity to reassess, through each challenging experience, what is important in our lives.
If we look through these times through the lens of personal growth it is possible to see that it has been an opportunity to focus inwards with increased awareness, pause and stillness. First, grieving what is no longer part of our lives – the carefree, expansive way of existence. Then we can open a doorway to compassion for ourselves and others, respect for the interconnected nature of our world and a deeper sense of gratitude and appreciation.
“We will realize how wonderful the world is when we are let out into it”
David Whyte – Irish Poet
Now we are moving into a new phase of being, building the road outward toward the next part of our life journey. In a sense, it is a rebirth, seeing the world with new eyes, ears and sense of ourselves. We may also be observing our past in a new way. Questioning whether our previous choices and ways of living still serve our purpose today. Our priorities may need a minor tweak or a major overhaul to live in a more personally, authentic way.
American positive psychologist, Dr Rick Hanson, identifies three fundamental human needs – safety, life satisfaction and connection. Each of these needs can be strengthened individually. A balanced awareness of them can enhance our experience of daily life.
How can we become motivated to get back into our world and reconnect with others?
- Creating a sense of stability. Assessing that although these are challenging times, we can assess that we are basically O.K. and all right, right now. As Pema Chodron quotes, seeing ourselves as the sky while all around us is the weather. Changeable as it emerges, is experienced and dissipates.
- Taking action in addressing our own physical and mental health. This may include good nutrition, rest and exercise, hygiene practices, considering vaccination options or alternatives, mindfulness practices. Action is a good antidote for anxiety as it involves a level of personal control over uncertainties.
- Realistically assessing life. Being aware of not overestimating the threats. Also not underestimating opportunities and our resources. It is possible to venture into the world with an appropriately cautious and watchful manner.
- Recognize the beauty around us. This may include a conscious daily practice of observing the beauty in the world, in others, in ourselves and in ideas. Taking in the good and really savouring positive experiences.
- Imagine the enjoyment of gathering with friends and family and make plans to connect when and where it is possible.
“Do all that you can, in the place where you are, with what you’ve been given, in the time that you have”
Nkosi Johnson – South African child born with HIV
Our lives have been put on an imposed ‘holding pattern’. A definite pause that may have caused us to reassess our priorities. The way forward now is to create a future for ourselves that has personal meaning. One that supports our fundamental needs and allows us to experience peace, contentment and love.