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The Benefits of Dance Throughout Life

October 17, 2020 by JanSmith

I have always enjoyed dancing. As a little girl I took up the different styles at my local dance school. Ballet, Tap, Jazz, Scottish, Irish, and Dutch. At that age it was a great opportunity to use up my excess energy from sitting at a school desk most of the day.  It also gave tone and grace to my body and allowed my creative right brain to imagine a multitude of scenarios and identities as I moved to the music. I continued until my later school years, at sixteen replacing dance with studying for school certificates and preparation for university entrance. It was a lovely time of dance concerts, sparkly costumes, and competitions. During my childhood, dance provided for me a broad range of skill development – physical, mental, social, and emotional.

Once I left school, dance went on the back burner. Life took its place and other pursuits were discovered. I moved into the teaching profession alongside the constant demands of motherhood. It was not until my mid-fifties arrived that my passion for dance resurfaced. My favourite style became Zumba – a combination of Latin American and Indian Bollywood steps to lively music. This form of exercise allows for a freedom of movement and expression that reached to my core. It also has become a wonderful arena for social interaction, particularly with other women. While we dance we imagine ourselves atop a Carnivale float or in a Latin Dance Studio in South America or on the streets of India moving in unison to the rhythms of Bollywood.

A multitude of benefits are present, particularly now I had reached my ‘wisdom years’ – those years after active engagement with the busyness of life. As I began regularly attending classes I felt fitter and happier than I had in a long time. I was not truly aware of the transformation, yet I knew there was a motivation and energy to continually engage in this fun form of exercise.

” Dance is the hidden language of the soul”

Martha Graham

Zvi Lanir (PhD) in his book ‘The Wisdom Years – Unleashing your Potential in Later Life’ highlights dance for the numerous benefits it brings to us in the years between retirement and old age. Men and women are living longer in the 21st Century and a window of years have been identified where people remain physically active and open to conscious and mindful reinvention.

The obvious physical benefits of dance are the ability to achieve an enjoyable cardiovascular workout. As the body moves, the oxygen surging through the blood stream positively enhances both the body and brain as they work in synergy. While we may need to modify steps as they are learnt or when our energy is depleted, the continued benefits of regular exercise can improve our well-being. Dance also improves our flexibility and can prevent balance problems and falls.

I’ve also discovered dance is a ‘super food’ for our brain. It has been identified as the one form of exercise that builds agility in all three regions – the right and left hemisphere and the rear lobe of automated and sensory functions. When you dance the left lobe allows you to follow the instructor’s directions. Your right lobe allows you to creatively express as you dance, infusing your emotions and imagination as you move. The rear lobe allows you to instinctively remember the dance step sequences so you can seamlessly integrate each of the brain hemispheres.

Social benefits of dance are profound. The obvious enjoyment of moving as a group fosters both connection and interaction between participants. Our particular Zumba class has an age range from young professional women and mothers to active women in their sixties. The older women provide the younger ones with beautiful role models of feminine energy that can endure throughout the decades. Women can also become each others’ support systems for life’s challenges, both inside and outside the Zumba class.

The benefits of dance for well being are numerous. Particularly as we age it becomes a wonderful choice of exercise to enhance life and build social connections. If you have not tried dance for a while, or at all in your life, consider taking it up as a form of exercise. No one is concerned with making the perfect moves and you have the opportunity to get fit without really noticing the effort.

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Embracing Change in Your Life

October 14, 2020 by JanSmith

In the process of manifesting change, it can be exciting to dream of the next thing on the horizon. From the comfort zone of our present lives we begin to imagine a different future. It may be because we feel stuck in the patterns of our current thoughts and behaviour. In response we are seeking new habits and approaches to how we have responded to past situations. Alternatively, it can be motivated consciously by our desires for a better, alternate future. This type of change is a larger one to navigate.

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There comes a moment in the change process where some of our planning begins to turn into actionable steps. It feels like a sense of momentum is formed and we assume the belief that there is no turning back. This may be from a decision to begin or end a relationship, move home, or venture on a new career path or business. These are large changes to our lifestyle and the focus of this blog.

While it is exciting to feel our lives change gears it can also be daunting. As things gain momentum we feel ourselves thrust into unknown territory. This space in between our present and future lives can feel quietly exciting and unnerving all at the same time. It is not uncommon to have a feeling of remorse and panic once our decisions are made. It is just our natural human urge to feel safe and secure as we biologically resist the discomfort associated with a new direction. An urge we need to give up momentarily to accept the next step in our journey.

New thoughts and plans rush into our mind as a way to control the process. It may be a time for juggling the day to day of our current life with major decisions surrounding our future. It can be an overwhelming time and tax our emotions and energy levels. To cope it is important to create a mental space to prioritize what is required to get to our new life.

A diary or calendar is handy to work out some of the logistics of the change. It is even worthwhile to begin with the end date in mind and work backwards to the current time. Brainstorm all the possible steps as a flexible ‘To do’ list and work out appropriate time and energy required to accomplish each task. Enlist the help of others, either directly to assist with jobs on your list or to indirectly support your ability to get it all done. For example, others taking care of your children or supplying a meal.

Be kind to yourself in the process. If you need to sleep more to cope with the additional emotional energy generated, give yourself permission to do so. If you need time to reflect and process the changes occurring again allow this. Throughout the process there will be things you can control and others that arise incidentally that feel outside your control.

“Acceptance makes for incredible fertile soil for the seeds of change”.

Steve Maraboli

In the end the process of change will be a mix of both the expected and unexpected. It will continue to be a journey opening new doors of opportunity and personal insights. Hopefully at some future point you can look back with a sense of accomplishment. You’ve acquired a new sense of comfort level in your changed circumstances. Perhaps just enough time to feel cosy, until the next impetus for change arrives.

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Finding Space and Solitude in Our Lives

October 9, 2020 by JanSmith

We live in a world that can’t stop talking, that gravitates towards us for attention, action, and noise.  It’s not unusual to find that a whole week or month has gone by and we have hardly noticed. When we focus on being active and outwardly ‘busy’ we may see it as our identity or purposefulness in life. Unfortunately, this may be to the detriment of finding space for expansive emptiness and solitude in our lives.

It is easier at times to be naturally introvert – quiet, serious, sensitive, and observant. Particularly this year introverts have found social isolation a comfortable state and perhaps used disconnection to both stay safe within a small ‘bubble’ and to go within to find their creativity and solace. On the other hand, the extrovert has found social isolation and disconnection difficult. For them, it has been a time of frustration and loneliness. They have lacked any sense of control to change situations arising. All they want to do is re purpose their past selves and all their activities and connections. The online forum cannot fully replace their enjoyment of face to face human interaction.

Many of us fear being alone – alone with our thoughts and sense of disconnection. It has led to a rise in anxiety and depression in response to our loneliness. Our natural human tendency is for connection with others, which we learnt as young babies. Witness the distress of a one year old when they are not in proximity of their ‘inner circle of love’, their parents. Having just identified them as their first loved ones they fear separation (Attachment theory – Bowlby).

Yet as we get older and realize this is a big, wide world to build connection; we can make a distinction between a sense of loneliness and the state of being comfortable in the state being alone.

cheerful young woman with red leaf enjoying life and weather while reading book in autumn park
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‘This silence. This moment. Every moment. if it’s genuinely inside you, brings what you need’

Rumi

 If you embrace stillness and solitude, what will you find there?

1. A space to relax and breathe. To switch off from endlessly giving and awareness. To let go of time and obligation. An invisible boundary from the busyness and business of life. Ask for this time away from others, knowing you can create a sense of calm on your return.

2. Being comfortable with your own thoughts and observing them. If you find your mind racing, take out a piece of paper and pen and free write what’s emerging. Once done, look back at how you might reframe what you have written. Particularly if you are feeling a sense of overwhelm.

3.Connecting with nature – gives a sense of gratitude for being, resets our attitude and invites peace. This could be a simple as standing barefoot on grass and taking some deep breaths or walking in a garden.

4.Self-nurture and rejuvenation. Making a regular habit for solitude, particularly when you have a family in the home, is precious. It might mean getting up a bit earlier in the morning to find the stillness. Take time by yourself before you welcome the day.

5.A space for meditation and going inward – to get out of the endless thoughts in our mind and sit in the body. The modalities of yoga and mindfulness are obvious ways to go within. Even short periods of focus on the breath and gentle movement can be restorative.

6. A gift of self-reflection that allows creativity and personal expression of who you are. You take the opportunity to remember, explore and do the things that are the essence of who you are. Ask yourself the beautiful question – What is it, that just by making contact, brings me alive? It may be music, dance, painting, gardening, or something else. Take the time to do what makes your soul happy.

I remember rejuvenating away from motherhood by taking a few hours on my own to browse through handcraft stores. I loved strolling on my own, looking at beautiful things’ and I felt rested and more ‘human’ on my return. I still enjoy handmade markets and gallery visits.

Finding space and solitude in our lives is a balancing act. If we can find the time for stillness and being alone it can be calming and restorative. This not only benefits ourselves, but it also benefits those around us.

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Moving Home with Ease – A Case Study

October 7, 2020 by JanSmith

Recently I explored how it may be possible to move home with ease. Our family moved quite a few times previously in our lives so we had built up a few useful strategies for the task. Our friends, Michael and Larissa have lived on their family farm while bringing up their children. Having now emptied the nest, they recently made the decision to move into town. The relocation was within their known community so work and social connections were already established. I asked them several questions both prior to and shortly after this important transition.

Prior to the move: –

 ‘Yes, this is a BIGGER transition than I have given credit to….. I feel so assured this new chapter in our lives and marriage will be rich and full’. (Larissa)

1. When did you make the decision to move home?

We knew once our son Drew proposed to his love Danielle that a move for us was imminent (December 2018). Although Michael had been keeping an eye out on the housing market in Griffith for some years before then.

2.How long have you been living in the home you are moving from?

We moved out here to our farm in June 1994 (I was pregnant with our first child, Drew). Michael grew up here, had a brief time away at Yanco Agricultural College in 1985 -1986 and when we were first married (1992) we lived in Griffith until June 1994.

3. Do you have favourite memories of your time there as a family?

So many memories …. Our front road has been flooded a few times making trips into town very interesting. Watching Michael develop our farming system to the profitable enterprise it is today has been an amazing experience. Many family bon fires, Simone’s 18th out at our shearing shed, a Youth camp for church out here, boarding four back packers here in our home over harvest times has led to us having somewhere to stay in four different countries. And many family Christmases and Easters.

4. How long have you been organizing the physical move into your new home in town?

We purchased our new home in town in early June. There was a 90-day settlement, so we did nothing really except dream for the first 60 days and seriously began to sort through cupboards etc. in the last month.

5. What strategies are you using to sort, pack and ready yourself for the move?

A methodical cull of certain areas at a time has helped me progress. Laundry, linen cupboards, pantry, office, spare bedroom. First a clear out of what we can give away that we really did not need anymore, then a final pack leaving only what we need for this last week.

6. How do you emotionally feel about the move? (Stress level, feeling organised, about leaving your current home, about your future home.)

We are excited, feeling quite organised really although the last few days we are feeling the pressure to tick a final few boxes on our ‘To Do’ list. – carpet cleaning, electricity, internet. Ask me the day the truck arrives….. ha-ha, might be a different story.

7. What was the most useful tip in my blog – How to Move Home with Ease?

In your blog I loved the suggestion of an Essentials Box or boxes to make the first night in our new home easier. I also like the idea of taking a walk through our old home saying our goodbyes in a ritualistic way so we can take memories with us. Then when we are in our new home, to say ‘hello’ to each room and infuse positive energy. This will certainly ease any emotional angst or grief that may pop up for us.

Post move questions: –

‘We are settling into our new home well. Slowly making it ours and into a home’. (Larissa)

1. How did the physical move go? Was anything unexpected? Was it more or less difficult than you expected? Yes, the cats settled way faster than me! Physically, the move went well! In 4hrs we had moved 90% of our life from the farm into our new home.  We were both exhausted by 11pm when we called it a day.

2. Did you feel you could say goodbye to your previous home, and welcome your new one?

My emotions surprised me and were unexpected. I have wanted a house in town for so, so long…. and was so excited to finally have that dream come true, but halfway to town on Tuesday, following the Removalist truck I cried.

It felt sad leaving our home of 26 years where we brought our children up, nurtured and created a flourishing marriage and business. We had made a building and garden our home.

3. How does it feel now you are in your new home?

I am not sure I can or have said goodbye to our farm home yet… Seeing all of our son and his wife’s things in it is strange, our essence is gone but the building still LOOKS like ours. I feel now like we are living in an Air BNB, a holiday house at the moment … it’s the strangest feeling.

4. Did it help having the idea of an essential’s box/s for the initial first few days?

I SHOULD have taken more care to have an ESSENTIALS box like you suggested…. as I was missing a few everyday items until day 5!!  The final pack up of last-minute things was too rushed to mark it all appropriately.

5. Do you have any thoughts or further suggestions to share?

As an extra… there is more to moving from an ‘out of town’ farm life into a town environment than just moving house from somewhere in town to somewhere else in town. Putting away all my pantry/baking/food items left me so very stressed and overwhelmed!  It felt so sinful and extravagant having so many extra BULK items.  

Michael explained ‘its ok, you’ve come from having the shops 30mins away – from trying to be as ‘self-sufficient’ as possible in every way… ‘

I needed loads of help in this area to – physically find a home for all my food/baking stuffs, and emotionally, to stop my negative self-talk!!

I will come out of this as a changed woman (for the better) but need to be kind to myself for a while. It’s certainly been a time in our lives we will never forget!

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